I caught this cute video called Geraldine (approx 10 minutes, Rated PG-13 by Kara for brief cartoon nudity) on YouTube yesterday. It's about a boy who wakes up to find he is a girl. I won't tell you exactly what happens, but as usual, the boy ends up being a fairly attractive girl. By day two, "she" is already doing fairly well with her new body.
While this is likely a dream come true for most transgender people, I wonder how non-transgender people would really react to the situation. What would happen if a regular guy were suddenly made a very attractive woman? Yeah, yeah, he likely wouldn't leave the house for a while, but you wonder how things would go.
I mean, when I had SRS, there were plenty of guys I talked to that had no want or need to talk about how my penis was going to be removed. It scared most of them. After the surgery, I told my dad that it actually didn't hurt that bad...and he said, "Well, that would hurt me a lot." I think he was talking more about the psychological pain than the physical pain. For me, there really wasn't any psychological pain involved, although, I will admit that I do miss certain aspects of having it...but I think I've hit on that before.
So, what if a guy were suddenly a hot chick? It might be a sexual fantasy for many, but I wonder how they would do in the long run. What if they were just an average girl...or, gasp, a fat chick? What if a woman were turned into a stunning man? Or just an average man, or, gasp, a fat bastard? While some men may be turned on to having breasts and being pretty, they might also miss having a penis. While some women may feel powerful with strong male muscles, would they feel uncomfortable actually having a penis and body hair? Would they feel weird having the wrong hormones hit their brain. While many people may see the sexual side of this transformation, I think many miss the effect hormones have on us. I seriously think that Testosterone was probably one of the key factors attributing to my GID. It's a nasty drug, and while it has left its mark, it has also shaped me into who I am today...both physically and psychologically.
So, if there are any non-transgender people out there reading this blog, I'd love to hear your thoughts on how you might survive in the body of the opposite gender? What would you love? What would you hate? What do you think you could deal with? Would you conform to your new gender role, or would you continue to live the way you currently live? Could you handle sitting or standing up to use the restroom? Do you think you would be a better man / woman than most simply because you were initially the opposite sex to begin with?
Inquiring minds want to know. =)
EDIT: I posted the question on Yahoo to see what non-transgender people would say. The results fit along a lot of the lines I mentioned here.
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As one of those, Gasp!.. "fat" people I find it interesting and insulting that you consider being fat to apparently be the ultimate horror.
But let me guess, you didn't mean anything insulting by what you wrote, in fact some of your best friends are fat?
I also just noticed the difference in how you refered to the genders.
One's a fat 'chick', the other is a fat 'bastard'.
Everytime I see a body switching or metamorphosis type piece, the people are always attractive, and while the person who switched is somewhat uncomfortable initially, they usually settle into their new features without too much issue. All I'm saying is that would they feel as comfortable if they weren't uber hot?
Hey, I'm far from perfect, and would love to look like a supermodel...but I don't. It was just a sarcastic comment I was trying to make about how the story would likely be different if they weren't so beautiful.
'Fat Bastard' was a reference to an Austin Powers movie.
Sigh.
Did anyone actually watch the short film?
OK, yes, I have plenty of friends that are not considered average or skinny. Some of them are my very good friends.
I wouldn't even consider myself average or skinny, but more athletic. I'm seriously not that tiny.
I have family members, close family members, that are overweight. It doesn't really bother me. I could care less if a person is overweight or not.
If one fails to grasp the sarcasm I used in my entry, then, please, don't read my blog.
OK new guy chiming in here:
Getting back to the basic question: "So, what if a guy were suddenly a hot chick?" My guess is that it would be a really tough adjustment - at least initially - because the change wasn't voluntary. I mean how do you explain it to your friends and family? Do you go to work the next day? No way - right?
So then let's assume you figure out a way to break the news to everyone in your circle. Do they all stick with you? One would hope. Do you keep your job? Would you want to? Then, of course, there's the eventual relationship situation. If you're "hard wired" to like women then my guess is that you will continue to do so. If you're more 'open', then it's completely brand new territory.
But being a "hot chick" might make some aspects of this easier or it might make it worse . You can't really "fly under the radar" if you're a Victoria's Secret model - right?
My 2 Cents. :)
A couple comments, (as I'm the one who brought it up) and I won't comment about it again.
If you remember what the character of 'fat bastard' was like you'd realize how insulting the referencing of the character is. It'd be like talking about gay men and using a pedophile as an example.
Secondly, if you didn't have bad feelings toward overweight folks you wouldn't have used being "gasp, fat" as signifying the opposite end of the spectrum.
As for sarcasm, let throw this out, if you heard someone use words like nigger,spic,faggot..or any other slur and then they claimed they weren't bigoted would you believe them?
If you don't want criticism of what you write, don't allow comments.
Seriously, comments are good. I get to see a reflection of what people think.
If I had written it as just "or a fat chick", I could totally see you beating me up for my inhuman comments. The *gasp* was meant to allow for the sarcasm. I don't like to use the other words you used simply because I see them as being fairly offensive. I don't see 'fat' nor 'fat chick' as being nearly as offensive. So people are fat, who cares. If it bothers a fat person to hear the word fat, then they can to do something about it.
At work, I still get called 'he' or 'him' on a regular basis by two people. Last week, I visited a vendor with both of them in attendance. It wasn't pleasant to hear the wrong pronouns, but ya know what, there isn't much I can do about it. They're gonna think what they want to think, and say what they want to say.
Let's think of this in another way. What if I had said, "gasp, a black chick?" or "gasp, a queer chick?" Would those be ok? Would it be better to say "gasp, an overweight chick" or is the *gasp* part of it causing the issue.
My whole intention here was not to make fun of fat people, but to point out how our society is so obsessed with beauty and how we think so one dimensionally about it.
I'm done defending my words.
I just have to say that I found this to be an insightful and thought provoking post. I myself am a MTF and I remember being a child and praying that I would wake up the next day as a female, my true self. I would always fantasize about what my life would be like when I woke up. Alas, it never happened. I wonder what it would be like for someone that did not have gender disphoria to wake up in a new body. I am sure it would be a whole new world. I am sure eventually they would want things back to normal. By the way Kara I love your posts, you are an inspiration to me. Take care!
Bailey
"I'm done defending my words."You would not have to make that statement if you didn't make sarcastic comments and think about what you are saying.I have known you for a long time and this is not your frist sarcastic comments toward other people. per Kara "If one fails to grasp the sarcasm I used in my entry, then, please, don't read my blog." So that your answer. WOW!!
Hi Jessica,
The short answer to your question is 'yes'. But, only with someone who was attractive in my eyes both inside and out. Not just as a one night stand kind of thing. Some people may feel differently about that. But, for me, there needs to be a fair dose of 'like' involved before climbing between the sheets. :) So I suspect I'd view it the same as a woman.
What I don't know is whether or not my 'hard wiring' would get re-wired a bit following a few years of being a woman. I don't know enough about what effects HRT would have in that respect. Maybe alot, maybe a little, or none at all. Maybe that's a question for Kara and others to chime in on?
It would not have mattered how Kara would have said "fat chick or fat bastard". Someone would have gotten affended. Its Kara's blog site. If people dont like how she says something then they dont have to read her blogs. If that was to happen waking up as the oppisite sex after living as the other at some point you have to move on and accept what has happened. As far as being with now what would be the oppesite sex, You would have some curiousity on how it would feel as a woman to be made love to by a man or now as man to make love to a woman. Most people would have sex just for that purpose and to see if thay is what they want.
Kara, Why dont you post that picture of you that was on the yahoo site dealing with this subject. From what I could see you look beautiful
Jessica,
I honestly don't believe that I would have a problem being in a relationship with a transexual but I don't view myself as being gay -"not that there's anything wrong with that". If I were attracted to her and she to me then what's wrong with that?
I thought it was pretty gutsy of Kara to relay her "Stage 4 Cooties" story a few weeks back. But I couldn't help but shake my head when reading it because it was really the guy who had them and not her. His loss - right?
Rich
Jessica,
I honestly don't believe that I would have a problem being in a relationship with a transexual but I don't view myself as being gay -"not that there's anything wrong with that". If I were attracted to her and she to me then what's wrong with that?
I thought it was pretty gutsy of Kara to relay her "Stage 4 Cooties" story a few weeks back. But I couldn't help but shake my head when reading it because it was really the guy who had them and not her. His loss - right?
Rich
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