I caught this cute video called Geraldine (approx 10 minutes, Rated PG-13 by Kara for brief cartoon nudity) on YouTube yesterday. It's about a boy who wakes up to find he is a girl. I won't tell you exactly what happens, but as usual, the boy ends up being a fairly attractive girl. By day two, "she" is already doing fairly well with her new body.
While this is likely a dream come true for most transgender people, I wonder how non-transgender people would really react to the situation. What would happen if a regular guy were suddenly made a very attractive woman? Yeah, yeah, he likely wouldn't leave the house for a while, but you wonder how things would go.
I mean, when I had SRS, there were plenty of guys I talked to that had no want or need to talk about how my penis was going to be removed. It scared most of them. After the surgery, I told my dad that it actually didn't hurt that bad...and he said, "Well, that would hurt me a lot." I think he was talking more about the psychological pain than the physical pain. For me, there really wasn't any psychological pain involved, although, I will admit that I do miss certain aspects of having it...but I think I've hit on that before.
So, what if a guy were suddenly a hot chick? It might be a sexual fantasy for many, but I wonder how they would do in the long run. What if they were just an average girl...or, gasp, a fat chick? What if a woman were turned into a stunning man? Or just an average man, or, gasp, a fat bastard? While some men may be turned on to having breasts and being pretty, they might also miss having a penis. While some women may feel powerful with strong male muscles, would they feel uncomfortable actually having a penis and body hair? Would they feel weird having the wrong hormones hit their brain. While many people may see the sexual side of this transformation, I think many miss the effect hormones have on us. I seriously think that Testosterone was probably one of the key factors attributing to my GID. It's a nasty drug, and while it has left its mark, it has also shaped me into who I am today...both physically and psychologically.
So, if there are any non-transgender people out there reading this blog, I'd love to hear your thoughts on how you might survive in the body of the opposite gender? What would you love? What would you hate? What do you think you could deal with? Would you conform to your new gender role, or would you continue to live the way you currently live? Could you handle sitting or standing up to use the restroom? Do you think you would be a better man / woman than most simply because you were initially the opposite sex to begin with?
Inquiring minds want to know. =)
EDIT: I posted the question on Yahoo to see what non-transgender people would say. The results fit along a lot of the lines I mentioned here.
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As one of those, Gasp!.. "fat" people I find it interesting and insulting that you consider being fat to apparently be the ultimate horror.
But let me guess, you didn't mean anything insulting by what you wrote, in fact some of your best friends are fat?
I also just noticed the difference in how you refered to the genders.
One's a fat 'chick', the other is a fat 'bastard'.
Everytime I see a body switching or metamorphosis type piece, the people are always attractive, and while the person who switched is somewhat uncomfortable initially, they usually settle into their new features without too much issue. All I'm saying is that would they feel as comfortable if they weren't uber hot?
Hey, I'm far from perfect, and would love to look like a supermodel...but I don't. It was just a sarcastic comment I was trying to make about how the story would likely be different if they weren't so beautiful.
'Fat Bastard' was a reference to an Austin Powers movie.
Wow Kara, I guess you really touched on to another subject when you were trying to get a response about another.
I am over weight right now (working on losing it) and of course if you remember I am a MTF who hasn't started HRT yet, so course I would love to look like a supermodel as well (more like Carmen Electra) so you know if I woke up as a woman that would be great... and with today's surgeries a "fat" person can become skinny and an non "uber hot" person can become fairly attractive. I've seen your before and after's and it's a pretty amazing difference (lucky you). I just hope I can come close when it's my turn.
BTW, do you have any "fat" friends?
Sigh.
Did anyone actually watch the short film?
OK, yes, I have plenty of friends that are not considered average or skinny. Some of them are my very good friends.
I wouldn't even consider myself average or skinny, but more athletic. I'm seriously not that tiny.
I have family members, close family members, that are overweight. It doesn't really bother me. I could care less if a person is overweight or not.
If one fails to grasp the sarcasm I used in my entry, then, please, don't read my blog.
I watched it. I thought it was rather good. I especially liked her little swaying walk when she was trying to walk in pumps.
It pretty much captured what it's like to be a woman (at least from my point of view, but I am not one physically... yet). Things women have to deal with and the advanages and disadvanages that come along with being a woman (like her boss slapping her ass.)
I really have to get dsl again... it took me about half hour to download this on 56k.
OK new guy chiming in here:
Getting back to the basic question: "So, what if a guy were suddenly a hot chick?" My guess is that it would be a really tough adjustment - at least initially - because the change wasn't voluntary. I mean how do you explain it to your friends and family? Do you go to work the next day? No way - right?
So then let's assume you figure out a way to break the news to everyone in your circle. Do they all stick with you? One would hope. Do you keep your job? Would you want to? Then, of course, there's the eventual relationship situation. If you're "hard wired" to like women then my guess is that you will continue to do so. If you're more 'open', then it's completely brand new territory.
But being a "hot chick" might make some aspects of this easier or it might make it worse . You can't really "fly under the radar" if you're a Victoria's Secret model - right?
My 2 Cents. :)
A couple comments, (as I'm the one who brought it up) and I won't comment about it again.
If you remember what the character of 'fat bastard' was like you'd realize how insulting the referencing of the character is. It'd be like talking about gay men and using a pedophile as an example.
Secondly, if you didn't have bad feelings toward overweight folks you wouldn't have used being "gasp, fat" as signifying the opposite end of the spectrum.
As for sarcasm, let throw this out, if you heard someone use words like nigger,spic,faggot..or any other slur and then they claimed they weren't bigoted would you believe them?
If you don't want criticism of what you write, don't allow comments.
Seriously, comments are good. I get to see a reflection of what people think.
If I had written it as just "or a fat chick", I could totally see you beating me up for my inhuman comments. The *gasp* was meant to allow for the sarcasm. I don't like to use the other words you used simply because I see them as being fairly offensive. I don't see 'fat' nor 'fat chick' as being nearly as offensive. So people are fat, who cares. If it bothers a fat person to hear the word fat, then they can to do something about it.
At work, I still get called 'he' or 'him' on a regular basis by two people. Last week, I visited a vendor with both of them in attendance. It wasn't pleasant to hear the wrong pronouns, but ya know what, there isn't much I can do about it. They're gonna think what they want to think, and say what they want to say.
Let's think of this in another way. What if I had said, "gasp, a black chick?" or "gasp, a queer chick?" Would those be ok? Would it be better to say "gasp, an overweight chick" or is the *gasp* part of it causing the issue.
My whole intention here was not to make fun of fat people, but to point out how our society is so obsessed with beauty and how we think so one dimensionally about it.
I'm done defending my words.
I just have to say that I found this to be an insightful and thought provoking post. I myself am a MTF and I remember being a child and praying that I would wake up the next day as a female, my true self. I would always fantasize about what my life would be like when I woke up. Alas, it never happened. I wonder what it would be like for someone that did not have gender disphoria to wake up in a new body. I am sure it would be a whole new world. I am sure eventually they would want things back to normal. By the way Kara I love your posts, you are an inspiration to me. Take care!
Bailey
"I'm done defending my words."You would not have to make that statement if you didn't make sarcastic comments and think about what you are saying.I have known you for a long time and this is not your frist sarcastic comments toward other people. per Kara "If one fails to grasp the sarcasm I used in my entry, then, please, don't read my blog." So that your answer. WOW!!
What is this... beat up on Kara time? I do believe she picked the wrong way to say "fat" people but I also believe that she didn't mean anything by it. Just let it go already. Let's get back to the real reason this blog was posted.
I would like to think Rich for chiming in as I think he really hit upon what Kara was looking for. What he says is basically something that every Transsexual goes through at some point in their lives. Although our transsexualism isn't voluntary, we do indeed make the choice to change our bodies to match how we feel inside. We do have to tell our friends and family, have to decide to continue working at the same job after and during transition, and have to face the possibility that our friends and family will support us or even toss us to the curb.
And Rich, I wouldn't mind "flying under the radar" if I looked like a Victoria's Secret model! I am so called "hard wired" to like women but I do think that as a woman, I would at least leave my options open to men.
Rich I ask you this: if you were changed into a woman, wouldn't you be at least a little curious as to what it feels like sexually to be with a man as a woman? Do you think you would try it at least once even if you were "hard wired" to like woman? Or do you think you would just try to have a lesbian experience? Or both?
Hi Jessica,
The short answer to your question is 'yes'. But, only with someone who was attractive in my eyes both inside and out. Not just as a one night stand kind of thing. Some people may feel differently about that. But, for me, there needs to be a fair dose of 'like' involved before climbing between the sheets. :) So I suspect I'd view it the same as a woman.
What I don't know is whether or not my 'hard wiring' would get re-wired a bit following a few years of being a woman. I don't know enough about what effects HRT would have in that respect. Maybe alot, maybe a little, or none at all. Maybe that's a question for Kara and others to chime in on?
Well I know I haven't started HRT yet, but from all that I've read and from what other Ts have told me, HRT should have no effect on your sexual preference at all. It may change the emotional aspect of it, but it wouldn't make you like men.
But Rich, you bring up another point... after some time as a woman, it may be possible to become attracted to men sexually and physically. That is, the attention men would pay to you as a woman might be enough for you to change your mind. You may indeed fall in love with a man because of his need to take care of you, the way he might hold you at night, the flowers, jewerly, and gifts he may buy for you, and the way he makes love to you.
The way you talk and your willingness to be with a man as a woman sounds as if you may have thought about this before. Have you? Are you just curious about transsexuals or are you perhaps reading up on information because you question your own feelings about being a man?
If you are secure with yourself and your feelings, what's your number!?!, you seem like a pretty decent guy who is open to new experiences. What are your thoughts about being with a transsexual? Would that bother you, even if you didn't know right away? Would you consider yourself gay? Sorry to put you on the stop, but so far you're the only guy answering.
It would not have mattered how Kara would have said "fat chick or fat bastard". Someone would have gotten affended. Its Kara's blog site. If people dont like how she says something then they dont have to read her blogs. If that was to happen waking up as the oppisite sex after living as the other at some point you have to move on and accept what has happened. As far as being with now what would be the oppesite sex, You would have some curiousity on how it would feel as a woman to be made love to by a man or now as man to make love to a woman. Most people would have sex just for that purpose and to see if thay is what they want.
Kara, Why dont you post that picture of you that was on the yahoo site dealing with this subject. From what I could see you look beautiful
Yeah Kara, your photo on the Yahoo Q&A is small but I'd have to agree that as far as I can tell you look pretty good in it. Also it looks like a cute top that you're wearing. I know you're posted photos on some of your posts, so why not add a nice photo to your profile here?
I should stop writing on your posts so much and get back to updating my own blog. I'm so dumb like that sometimes!
Jessica,
I honestly don't believe that I would have a problem being in a relationship with a transexual but I don't view myself as being gay -"not that there's anything wrong with that". If I were attracted to her and she to me then what's wrong with that?
I thought it was pretty gutsy of Kara to relay her "Stage 4 Cooties" story a few weeks back. But I couldn't help but shake my head when reading it because it was really the guy who had them and not her. His loss - right?
Rich
Jessica,
I honestly don't believe that I would have a problem being in a relationship with a transexual but I don't view myself as being gay -"not that there's anything wrong with that". If I were attracted to her and she to me then what's wrong with that?
I thought it was pretty gutsy of Kara to relay her "Stage 4 Cooties" story a few weeks back. But I couldn't help but shake my head when reading it because it was really the guy who had them and not her. His loss - right?
Rich
Rich, thanks for answering so honestly.
I think what Kara meant is that since she has cooties then the guy didn't want to be with her. Which is why she needs a guy (or girl) with the anti-body, so they will stay with her.
Oh and nice Seinfield reference!
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